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Forgiveness is an issue we all face all our lives. It is generally very hard to forgive BUT it amazes me how easy some people forgive.

Let me explain.
I'm sure we understand those times when we find it so hard to forgive someone who "doesn't deserve it" .
But, what amazes me is how forgiveness is so easily given. Here's an example:
I'm sure we know of stories about how girls can so easily forgive guys who have a history of lying and sleeping around. These girls "know it" but somehow they just want to give these guys a chance. Yes, I understand we all need to give people second chances.
The question here is, is there a limit? What boundaries must be drawn? Should that girl let her guard down and surrender herself and risk being hurt?

Seriously, I don't know whether these girls fall so easily for guys like these? Izit because they are "stupid" or these guys have that charm?

BTW,  "girls" (not all ar...) , don't be so cheap lah... the guy wants, u give..apala
"ForGive" doesn't mean "AllGive" ..lolz

The above is just an example. It's really tough coz I know I forgive because God forgave me.
I personally faced the "hard to forgive" situation (and failed) but I also have people whom I somehow feel I can forgive but the situation is just complicated as that forgiveness comes with other changes to my life and others in my circle.

Life goes on and we gotta continue to learn...

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What if

I'm sure we all ask this question from time to time.


WHAT IF:

i remain single?

i fail the exam?

God doesn't answer that prayer?

it doesn't work out as I thought it would?

all my hard work leads to nothing?

what i'm doing now is worthless?

this is not God's will?


It really is hard to answer questions like these.

To make this post as short as possible, i'll use some examples/analogies.


Let's say a friend laments: "What if  I end up single for the rest of my life?

That would be one of the hardest questions to answer.
You want to encourage the person but you just don't know what to say.

It is a fact that many are single and some may "envy" those who are in a relationship. This may be the case of "the grass is always greener on the other side".
Or, sometimes we may feel that we are "better than them" but they are in a relationship and we are not.
Indeed, some people are just "lucky" to have "what we don't have". However, we should not let that be the EXCUSE.
I've seen so many people get married despite their looks, amount of money, or other attributes we think we need to have.
Saying more will make this post into another topic, so i'll stop.


Another example: People may say that working hard doesn't really mean that you'll succeed. Does that really mean we should stop working hard? I know we should work smart but sometimes we can only discover the smart way through the hard way.


Whether you want to put God in the picture or not, the principle of "sowing and reaping" and "the law of attraction" is somehow working in our lives. God is no respector of persons.

So, our actions, thoughts, and words will affect our tomorrow. Personally, with God in my life, it makes me more secure despite many things not going the way I want them to. Also, we all must not blame God for the situations we are in. Coz, many "bad things" happen due to our own actions.

What if we are really doing what is right but somehow we still don't see the results? The answer is WAIT. (Wait WELL, to be more precise but this is another topic)

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